Пропала эрекция во время секса

A single case of loss of erection during intercourse is not a pathology, and is quite common among men. The main thing is not to attach importance to temporary malfunctions and look at it as a random event. Another thing, when one failure gave rise to a psychological disorder in which sexual embarrassment occurs with every sexual contact. This condition is called "Fear of the anxious expectation of sexual failure (STOSN)."

Such a sexual embarrassment greatly affects the man’s self-confidence and as a result can lead to fear of sexual intimacy and a complete rejection of sexual relations. To prevent this from happening, it is necessary to determine the exact causes of the loss of erection and eliminate them until they become permanent.

Causes of the disappearance of an erection during sex

1. Psychological. In the vast majority of cases of disappearance of an erection during or before sexual intercourse, psychological causes take place. As a rule, such reasons are individual in nature, the most common of which are:

  • Bad sexual experience. Unsuccessful sexual experience leaves an imprint on the future sexual life of a man and can be the cause of the development of sexual phobias.
  • Self-doubt, fear does not satisfy the partner, does not live up to her expectations. Quite frequent phenomena for men, strong experiences because of which can cause a decrease in potency or lack of an erection at the right time.
  • Strong excitement, most often caused by self-doubt.
  • Discontent of the partner. If a girl expresses her dissatisfaction with the sexual abilities of a man and everything connected with it (penis size, etc.), this can cause the disappearance of an erection.
  • Depression, stress and problems.

2. Physiological. The disappearance of erection associated with any diseases of the genital area. They make up a small percentage for this situation and are typical for men of middle and older ages.

3. Household. Non-psychological causes and diseases reasons, which include physical or mental fatigue, indifference and apathy to a partner and more.

How to distinguish psychological from physiological problems?

If problems with an erection occur only during sexual contact with a partner, and alone with yourself you can easily cause a strong and prolonged erection, then this is definitely a psychological disorder.

How to solve psychological problems with potency?

. Elimination of STOSN . Use the methods of eliminating the fear of sexual failure , which are used by sexologists in their practice.

. Identify the source of the problem . Ask yourself if your fears are valid. Try to analyze and understand why this is happening. Can you solve the problem yourself? The concept of the cause of the disease and the realization of its inadequacy can sometimes prevail over fears.

. Enlist the support of a partner . Only one partner support can counteract all failures. Your relationship with your partner should be based on full trust and understanding, if in case of failure you could explain the situation without fear.

Those. the point is not to be afraid of failure, even if it happens! This is the key to success. If you are not afraid of failure, then it will not happen.

. Alcohol in moderation . In this case, alcohol can help: it relaxes and allows you to behave more relaxed and confident. But this does not mean that every sexual intercourse should begin with the adoption of alcohol: in most cases one successful sexual intercourse is enough to get rid of complexes of sexual failure.

. Be confident in yourself . Whatever you take, these actions should build self-confidence . Think about what makes you feel more confident in sexual relationships and embody it. For example, you can perform exercises to increase potency or eat foods that increase potency , follow general recommendations for improving health. Remember that with self-doubt you feed your fears, make them more real.

If self-treatment has not been successful, contact a good sexologist who will save you from this problem in a couple of sessions.

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  • Ivan says:

    need to be examined

    • Ivan says:

      Hello. Here I have such a problem: I am dating a girl I really like her, but I have such a problem after the first sexual intercourse, I have fallen and it is no longer possible the second time because of this, a negative attitude occurs. Help to understand this problem. Thanks.

  • Vadim says:

    Hello. I am 22 years old. I would like to get advice on how to be in this situation. The fact is that I am a virgin, doing Internet work related to watching porn and from time to time “quench my thirst” without problems. But the problem is this. A girl appeared and everything seemed to be nice, wildly like, madly wanting, but when it came to sex, when he “entered the girl’s vagina with a member,” he simply lay down quickly, that is, fell, the erection went out like a candle burned out, although before that it stood like a pod , while standing constantly while standing next to the girl. I am killed and shocked psychologically and morally. Tell me what to do so that everything works out and this does not happen again? It is very annoying. Thanks.

    • Eugene says:

      Worried! Talk with the girl, explain that he was worried, say that you really want her, that is, enlist her support. What is it for? In order not to be afraid of failure. Failure can only be repeated if one is afraid of it. Enlisting the support of a girl, you remove part of the fear from yourself. You can also try to take a little alcohol: it relaxes, removes some of the anxiety and in small quantities enhances sexual desire. If nothing helped, then to a sexologist until it turned into STOSN.

  • Paul says:

    I was 18 years old and had sex with a girl continuously all the time and then the day came the erection does not appear, but I don’t know what to do, tell me.

  • Nika says:

    I’m dating a man, he’s 35 to me 25. Every time it comes to sex, his erection disappears. He says that he is worried that there has never been such an age difference. Sex eventually occurs, but it takes a long time to bring him to his senses, because he is very worried about this. How can I help in this situation, because every time the situation is similar.

  • Dmitry says:

    It's okay ... All my life once and all, but after the woman is completely satisfied. But in my fifty this one time without any problems ...)

  • Maria says:

    Hello. I want to ask, I’m 25, was married, everything was fine with my husband (he’s also 25), now I’m divorced ... I live in a civil marriage with a man, he’s 35, the difference of 10 years doesn’t bother me, but there’s one thing “BUT ". During the foreplay, it lasts about 3-5 minutes, the man has an erection, as soon as the intercourse begins, the erection disappears, we are together for half a year, and each time we have such problems. It's a shame that the partner does not understand the problem and claims that everything is fine. I had sex with my ex-husband, he did not have such problems .... Very disappointing, I do not know how to help him, tell me please!

  • Incognito says:

    So I got a problem, I'm 18 years old, man.
    He broke up with the girl about a month ago, the first time was also with her. It was very difficult for us to part, but a month passed and I seemed to think that we needed to move on and brought the girl home, there was an erection, but during the sexual intercourse she disappeared, and she became very deft in front of the girl. With an erection, everything is in order in the morning and in general in ordinary life.
    Tell me what to do, maybe some vitamins are missing?

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